As long as I can remember, I have been afraid of dogs. I always knew the events of my early childhood that set this in motion1It mostly involed our family dog recuing me from danger.. Recently, in a discussion with BigOne, I had more insight into my fear both of dogs and other unknowns.

I am convinced I have no ability to understand what action a dog might take. Barking might mean, “Hello!” Barking might mean, “Stay away! I am going to attack you!” Once I get to know a dog a little bit, I have become fond of many dogs2Especially our standard poodle, Andrew, who saved my life twice.. However, there is always a voice in my head saying, “Danger! You could be hurt!”3There was another family dog and a different result, but that is another story.

I suppose this relates to my fear of most mammals4The exception is cats. I admit that is a little strange.. And geese5But not other kids of birds. Again strange.. Reconciling these inconsistencies may be a different Letter in the future, but there is a small observation I made that I think has led to an important point I don’t consider as often as I should.

When faced with the unknown, humans often attribute characteristics to qualities that are not logical. I suppose this is a short cut that helped us survive as cultures change. I know, even if I don’t like it, that some people will hurt you. How I know which people will hurt me? That is what the short cut is for. I got hurt by a person who had the quality Q(). Therefore, everyone with the quality Q() is a danger to me.

Of course, maybe *I* didn’t get hurt. Maybe I heard about it from you. People who have the quality Q() will hurt you. I see this every day in news stories that come across my not-so-smart phone, and I am sure everyone sees stories like this. Your quality is Q(D)6Liberal, so you must be going to raise my taxes. Your quality is Q(R)7Conservative, so you want to defund the police8Sorry for the current events reference. #sorrynotsorry.. It doesn’t have to be danger that relates the two qualities, but I think I react most strongly when one quality points to it being a dangerous situation for me – physical or emotional.

The problem, as I see it, is that this kind of thinking is full of non-deterministic syllogisms. As we statics lovers like to say, correlation is not causation9More on that in another Letter too.. The Q(D) is not always in union with Q(Taxes). The Q(R) is not always in union with Q(Defund). 

Now, I think making that mistakes leads us to surprises. Some good. Some bad. But what I see is when fear is involved, making this mistake leads to unfortunate consequences. Some small. Some large.

Back in 2019, I spent a week in Hamburg, Germany in October and then a week in Brussels, Belgium in December. In both cases, I saw a lot of homeless people. I love to walk around cities, but I admit: I was afraid. Q(Sleeping on the Streets) equaled Q(Mental health issues) equaled Q(Danger to Me). I knew it was unfair to the individuals even as I flinched when the dusk fell and I was walking by people sleeping on mattresses under bridges. Even though I knew intellectually the causes of homelessness for a person are multifaceted and different from society to society, I couldn’t get over my fear.

The thing about fear, the way I see it, is the consequence of me being wrong is worse for me, personally, than the consequence of changing my behavior by discounting a danger I know could exist.

I suppose my fear of Q(Being a Dog) could have, and could still be, addressed in many different ways. However, the truth is, I just avoid dogs10For example, I could actually study animal psychology and get closer to understanding when I should be afraid of the behavior of an animal. But that would be a lot work.

Maybe it is enough that I am aware that these syllogisms should always be “Some Q(a) are Q(b).” If I can train myself not to automatically jump to fear and remain in observation, even when I know some Q(dogs) will Q(bite), I think I would experience less fear. Which would lead to less judgement. Which would lead to a bit more understanding in my world. Which might lead to more understanding of individuals and peoples.

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